Beside the beach, beautiful sunset, cocktail, and exotic food, playing couple with a “holiday-boyfriend” complete the perfect combination of a holiday romance. When your friends keep nagging you about marriage, this time you are bringing a holiday-boyfriend home so you can pretend if your life is complete.
Instead of true love, we get forced down through our throat during every holiday season’s slew of romantic comedy. Let’s cut to the case, New Year’s Eve is the worst time to be single and alone; wanting a companion during the holiday makes a perfect sense. However, now in the tinder era when relationships are dead, we present romance on a truly practical level. Yep, the holiday-boyfriend is a guy that you have a love fling with during a vacation break; the deal is sweet, romantic and not causing any emotional baggage.
Or is it actually becoming something? You explore foreign places together, you taste strange food together, get drunk in a smoky bar together, share confessions, passions and dreams of your future life together. It is intoxicating and the feeling is inevitable. Now it is rolling around to the end of the “honeymoon” trip, but you are not sure how to end a wonderful but short-lived holiday’s love crush. It might be a little sad; both of you like each other, or you wouldn’t have become involved, right?
However strong our determination not to expect too much from a vacation fling is, somehow we find ourselves wondering at some point: Could this last? It is difficult not to get emotionally involved. Even though you enjoyed the time together a lot, but it would be unfair and totally unrealistic to pretend it can continue back in everyday “real-life.” We can’t all live out the The Note Book fantasy, when Rachel McAdams managed to live happily ever after with Ryan Gosling only after a short summer love affair.
The trouble with holiday-boyfriends happens when we persist in trying to make them something they are not. An overseas fling can be a beautiful thing, but that doesn’t mean the charmingly cocky guy with a cute accent you spend the break with is turning out to be “the one.” He might have five other girlfriends somewhere else, and you will never know. Be rational, enjoy the flattery, but don’t be taken in. When the emotion is building up, keep reminding the fact that it is most likely will never last. There are no long-term promises and it is sadly too good to be true.
Away from the pressure of the everyday life, the ideal holiday romance should be relaxing, fun, adventurous, and forgotten the moment we step on the plane home. You are sure jealous of his next girlfriend, but the feeling will be temporary. The chances are the love will fade as quickly as your tan - so cherish the time, live in the moment but be prepared to let go. Holiday romance should stay just where it started: on holiday. Maybe someday you’ll cross paths again with your holiday-boyfriend. And as time passes, it is always nice to have a friend you know in another part of the world. (MT)